So, it was just over three months ago that I made Dating Kinky live to the public. In that time, I’ve learned A LOT.

I mean, I had experience moderating and building dating sites before. I’ve worked with some big ones, even. I was pretty sure I had this.

I’m not ashamed to admit that I’ve tripped on my own hubris more than once in the past 90 days.

Something I am proud of, though: I’ve been learning.

You see, I did a lot of research before starting Dating Kinky. I took months finding just the right code base to start with, and then another two months to customize before I let anyone in. We tested with a few hundred people for a month before we opened up to the world, and still, I had more plans.

But things started going wrong.

This code base—this award-winning code we bought and customized—well, who knew it was never meant to really manage successful dating sites? By that, I mean sites who actually make it to more than 2,000 people.

Successful.

Sheesh!

And who knew that the overall structure was at least 7 years out of date, and all those awards were from people who didn’t know that, couldn’t know that?

I sure as hell didn’t.

But I was proud of Dating Kinky. And I still am. Because we offer things other kinky dating sites don’t, like 8 genders, poly matching, references, relationship stauses and more.

But we’ve already outgrown it. We’re splitting the seams, and I still have a dozen more functions I want to add and changes I want to make to the existing functions.

So, what now?

Well, I’m digging in, and building the site from scratch. I and my development team are writing thousands (probably millions) of lines of code to make Dating Kinky what it should be, and to make room for all the amazing people that keep signing up (Thank you!).

What does this mean to you?

Well, a few things:

1. I want your ideas and suggestions.

Everything you can throw at us, no matter how off-the wall. NOW is the time. I’ve got some amazing functionality planned, but YOU are the reason for all of it. Tell me about what your IDEAL dating site would have.

2. I’ll be looking for testers for the new site.

DO you like to find bugs and errors and see things before they are available to the general public? Great! Reach out. I want you in on this.

3. Things might seem a bit quiet, development-wise on Dating Kinky over the next two months.

Because we’re improving, but where it’s not really visible. Then, all of a sudden, we’ll be unveiling things. I’ll do updates and so on, but you’ll be hearing about a lot of cool features that don’t exist yet.

4. New Apps.

Yeah. They suck, too. They were (again) customized versions of apps that connected with the package I bought (and cost an additional amount). They suck. The company gave them to me with errors, some I’ve managed to fix, but they won’t fix many of them, and the code is so terrible (and out of date), my team is tossing it out and starting from scratch. They are useful as basic messengers, but… well… not much else. I’m working on that, promise. I’ll keep you up-to-date, there, too.

And it’s not all bad. In fact, to be honest, it’s not very bad at all. By starting where we did, I discovered many things I would not have thought of in creating a dating site (because they weren’t part of the sites I’d worked on/in/built before), and I’m thankful for that, even though we’ll leave it behind.

We’ve also added 5,000 users in the past month, and we’re going to keep growing.

As one of the early adopters of FetLife, I know that there are going to be many roadbumps ahead (remember when FetLife went up and down more often than a kangaroo in mating season?), and I’m up to the challenge.

Thank you to all of you who have joined, and are making my vision of a kinky dating site with AMAZING members a reality.

I’m working hard for you to live up to your trust.

I just wanted to tell ya’ll this.

*smiles*

15 Responses to “A Peek Behind The Curtain At Dating Kinky”

  1. Jay

    If your looking for help app server wise maybe it would help to post information on your current setup and what your moving to… Maybe even looking into making some of the apps and such open source projects…. Sometimes it can be hard to make suggestions with out some knowledge of how things currently exist

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    • NookieNotes

      I’ll share details with those who offer to help. I’m not ready to go full open source, as the security and privacy issues are BIG for me. YUUUUUUGE! 🙂

      And, honestly, code-wise, I’m not looking for much help. I’ve got a great team. It’s more about what people want in features, and eventually in feedback on UI, ease of use and so on.

      *smiles*

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      • Jay

        I would be willing to help…. App servers are my thing if your still looking for help and depending what you need I may be able to lend a hand or two.

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        • NookieNotes

          Awesome. Could you shoot me an email? I’ll be able to reach out much easier that way.

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  2. Virile

    Since you and I, Nookie, had plans to talk about some of your site things but then you for some reason didn’t reply on the meeting day or the next and you don’t seem to be taking messages from me anymore, I will post some quick suggestions here. Maybe they’ll come of some use to you.

    My suggestion is to look at angularjs 1.5, this what I’m using on my site, I won’t plug it here (and for my employer). Angular is cutting edge and compatible with i.e.9+. Angular 2 is out but it’s easier to use if you’ve learned typescript. – 1.5 is written in plain js. Php would only be needed for data fetching and minipulation. Not for page structure.

    With angular js and Cordova you can build your mobile app and website with the same codebase. You won’t have to maintain a build for each platform.

    Gulp, and its plugins can help you to maintain a clean code base and simultaneously upkeep your dev code in to a “compiled/minified” production environment.

    Suggestion 2, build your own backend, site tools and widgets.

    Thanks for reading.

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    • NookieNotes

      I’m not sure what you’re talking about. If this is who I think it is, I showed when I was supposed to and never got any reply.

      That said, thanks for your feedback. Technology-wise, I’ve got my path for now. I am specifically looking for user-testing and feedback, which will help us fine-tune details as needed.

      Thanks again!

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  3. Stephenie

    Thank you so much for what your doing to you and your team. I am totally new to the world of kinky and don’t know much but very willing to learn all I can. I dont know if I would be able to help any I am not very Tech salvay when it comes to computer stuff.

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    • NookieNotes

      Tech savvy is a non-issue! It’s really about your experience, and everyone has one of those. *smiles*

      Shoot me an email if you’d like to help. I’ll add you to the list of notifications. You can participate as you have opinions.

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  4. Jae

    Don’t know if a lot of people are having this problem but every time I try to click on the guests area the app shuts down….*sigh* technology

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    • NookieNotes

      Ah. Yes. A bug that the company who built the app for us will not address.

      *sighs*

      I’m sorry about that.

      That said, our new site is responsive, and the apps will be under our complete control.

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  5. Fellow kinkster

    I’m pretty sure that this is one (or a few) of the things you’re considering but searching is terrible. Being able to tailor a search would be nice. Options for activity, distance, new, profiles with photos, Another thing that would be nice is the results page. Have several different ways of results being viewed. (I.e. List view, gallery view, a tab for nearest first, newest, etc…) Also the signing up needs to be polished up a bit. (I.e. Entering or rather selecting your birth date was a bit frustrating at first till you figured out that you needed to select your birth year before selecting the month then day). Also some of the selections in both signing up and searching are a bit confusing. This is all off the top of my head. Hope this helps. I’ll be happy to elaborate more if you’d be interested.

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    • NookieNotes

      Thank you!

      We are working on all of those. *smiles*

      If you’d like to join the feedback team, I’ll be unveiling the plans, showing off the prototypes and getting ideas and suggestions over the next couple of weeks/months.

      Shoot me an email, if you’d like to participate.

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  6. Rohm

    Commending you on the success and the spirit to take it to the next level.

    I’ve sent you an email to offer my assistance.

    Best wishes, always!
    Rohm

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