I’ve been working in and on adult community sites for years. Mostly as a moderator of some sort, often as a developer, never until now as both.

And despite being around this sort of thing for 2+ decades, it still never fails to amaze me the kind of arguments people will put forth to justify their behavior or try to change the consequences.

Just this morning, for example, I got a message that said:

“first of all I could have only been rude once by ignorance cause Im always quite nice and polite…now in a free society we are intitled to an explanation,please msg me with aledged mistake,I will be waiting for you or your teams reply.have a nice day”

*sighs*

This is their 4th response to this original message:

So, the word we’re hearing is that you’re not being very nice.

It’s just one report right now, so it’s not going to impact you at this time, however, do keep in mind that enough reports will get your account put on suspension.

Thank you for your understanding, and keeping Dating Kinky friendly!

Good luck finding your match.


Dating Kinky Team

Seems simple, right? Straightforward, simple warning, no real consequences yet. No need to even respond.

But, of course, they did. Over and over.

And tried to force me to explain who did this to them and what they did wrong.

It was obvious. There was no “nice and polite” about it.

But they feel like they are due an explanation because we live in a “free society.”

Yes. We do. And that free society is exactly why someone like me can create a site like Dating Kinky and run it as I see fit.

Dating Kinky is not the wild west. It is not a free-for-all. It’s for people to connect, not aggravate and hate on each other.

I will do everything in my power to make that a reality, and gather in the kinksters who believe in that ideal and adhere to it’s principles.

I am a benevolent dictator. What I say goes. I will create the rules, follow the rules, and when it is necessary, I will break the rules to uphold the spirit of the rules and their reasons for being to begin with.

Which is why I thought this quote from Richard Branson was particularly fitting. *smiles*

 

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