I can’t make this up.

A man on Dating Kinky was reported today (and immediately deleted) for threatening to r*pe a female member, sending her a cock shot in the next message, and then asking about her panties color, since he was “close to cumin” (maybe he was near the spice rack?) in a third, all without a single response from her.

Three Strikes Gets You Deleted from Dating Kinky


What a peach.


I just sent this message:

Your photo was reported as being a model photo, and therefore likely copyrighted and not belonging to you.

Don't let a bad day make you feel like you have a bad life #boy #tbt #selfie #sundayfunday #tumblr #girl #dope #men #tumblrboy #tb

A photo posted by Carlos Acikalin, 21, Canada🇨🇦 (@trouble_bro) on

If you are the model, our apologies.

Please confirm by going through our photo verification process, and we’ll know from here on in that those photos are you.

Thanks so much for helping us keep Dating Kinky authentic!


Dating Kinky Teammember

Now, we won’t catch them all, but we take every report seriously, and check details of the account against the model information.

Sometimes, it certainly seems to be the model, and we would simply send a message making contact, asking for additional confirmation before deleting.

In the case where none of the information seems to match, we’ll delete first, ask questions later.

No More Cock Shots!

No Cock Shots

So, I got a flagged profile report this morning, and so I went to take a peek at the profile. I couldn’t see anything overtly offensive, as the flagging said, so I wrote a message to the flagger and asked for some details.

The upshot is that a man had reached out, moving from “Hello, Gorgeous,” to cock shot in 7 messages or less, without any real expressed interest from her.

In fact, he’d asked if she had an interest in a particular fetish, and she said “No,” so he sent a pic of what she would be missing.


So, of course, I thanked her for reporting the issue, and sent this message to the flagged user:

Your profile has been suspended because you’ve been reported for sending an unsolicited photo of your genitalia to another member.

That’s SO not cool.

Like really, really not cool.

And so, here we are. Your profile is suspended and will stay that way if we do not get an email from you at stating that you understand the following:

1. We have private photo albums where you can post what you like, so your friends on-site can see what you’re offering. These albums allow you to set them for ‘Friends Only,’ ‘Certain Friends,’ and ‘Password Protected,’ so you have a lot of options for sharing photos.

2. You are welcome to send photo attachments via message AFTER getting consent.

See? It’s easy.

Thank you so much for your understanding! We look forward to hearing back from you and releasing your profile.

Dating Kinky Teammember

P.S. If we do not hear from you with 15 days, your profile will be deleted.

You see, we have a lot of options for sharing your junk consensually, so that non-consensual stuff is just, well, not allowed.

And it’s rude.

So don’t do it.

And if someone does it to you, please report it. We will need screen captures for our files (for our records, not for our perving, silly people!), to be sure we are acting on good faith, of course.

So, thank you very much for supporting a consensual sexy safe space for all kinksters, and please keep up the reporting!


So, anyone who pays any attention to what I’m doing with Dating Kinky knows I want it to be chock full of REAL people making REAL connections, right?

I hope so. That’s kind of my whole branding concept. Oh, and it’s kinky, but that’s pretty clear in the name, yeah?

Anyway, I got two messages this weekend:

“i wan to close my account. a guy keeps harrasing me, and he won’t stop”


” you have a lot of scammers on your sight. Most of them that I stumbled on claim to be female Doms with and/or without pictures. However, to chat with them they demand a payment. It may be legit but I don’t think advertising like that on your type of sight is right, but I may be wrong. Most of the scammers immediately want to chat with you on another site like Kik or Viber, a clear sign.”

So, I took care of the first with a simple note and block to the guy bothering her.

The second I can’t do anything about, because, well, no one has reported them! Including the person who sent the message.

Now, I would LOVE to be able to view every account on my site every day, to see if they seem like scammers, but I don’t have the personal resources for that.

So, I rely on my users to tell me when they think something is hinky.

Let me give you a clue: I delete anywhere from 5-50 people EVERY DAY. I add new IPs, spam-style email blockers, and so on… And we block thousands before they even get to register.

And Dating Kinky is a SMALL site.

But we’re growing. FAST.

And I want to weed out all scammers and spammers. And abusive assholes. And creepy jerk faces. And so on…

But I need your help.

I can’t know if MissUseU is a scammer, if you and the 58 other people who interact with her never report her to my team. I don’t know that Vivi19 is really 17, and claims it in writing, if it’s not brought to our attention. I have no idea that JackCrack72 is filling your inbox with creepy notes and dick pics unless you say something.

So, please, for all that is good and kinky—report them!

My team WILL take care of it. As fast as we can. And they will be gone. And if they come back, we’ll take care of it again. And again. And again.

Thank you!

If you’re a female on a dating site, you know exactly what I’m talking about. You know, when William sends a photo of “Little Willy,” instead of saying “Hello, my name is ____, and I think you’re fabulous. I’d really love to get to know you and…”

While there is a bright side—you now know he’s not worth even another second of your time—it’s annoying and frustrating, and sometimes you just wish you had the perfect thing to say…

Well, Sarah-Louise Jordan DID have the perfect thing to say, and Dating Kinky has put her HILARIOUS and cheeky response into a video just for you.

(Note, the video is a bit colorful with it’s language, I’d rate it NC-17.)

Now, you not only have the PERFECT thing to say, with illustrative graphics, but if you’re one of our members, it’s also a “Quick Reply” on our web app (coming soon for mobile), so you can send it with the touch of a button!

Now, if only we can figure out to the messages that just say, “hey.”


What Is Kinky?

If you go to google right now and type in “define kinky,” you’ll get the following two definitions:

1. involving or given to unusual sexual behavior.
2. having kinks or twists.

At Dating Kinky, I going with my own definition that combines the two, and throws in a bit more for fun:

Kinky is something greater than the straight and narrow, a flexibility, in how you view and navigate the world.

Kinky is different than your average person, opened up to more possibilities, especially (but not necessarily) in relation to sex.

I am grateful for my kinkiness, and I welcome yours!

So, obviously, dyed-in-the-wool kinksters are welcome there, but who else ‘makes the cut?’

BDSM? Willkommen.
Alternative lifestyles, like poly? Bienvenue.
Swinging? Welcome.
LGBTQ and all the other letters that don’t fit easily into a box? C’mon in.

Even allies and friends of all the kinky people, who just prefer to play a bit outside their comfort zone. You are definitely welcome. I am doing my best to make a site that is welcoming and safe for all, friendly, and full of connections.

Even more, I am focused on offering options that allow you to be YOU, online as you are off. From a wider gender selection to greater options for matching up with potential playmates, I’m passionate about giving you the tools you need to find and be found for kinktastic fun.


So, sign up at Dating Kinky! It’s free.

I look forward to seeing you there!

P.S. When I say free, I mean everything you need to meet others is absolutely free and will always be. We do have paid options, because we want to continue growing and making this site even better, and that takes the green, however, those are perks and are NOT needed to enjoy this site. At all. Period.